"Cowboys" and abdicating responsibility
One of the most evocative terms in the polyamory glossary is the cowboy or cowgirl - a monogamous partner who becomes involved with a...
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Laura Boyle
- Jul 24
- 2 min
Change and the Power of Paradigm Shifts
The biggest paradigm shift between traditional monogamy and non-traditional relationships of any kind (relationship anarchy, whether you...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 22
- 4 min
Priorities and Hierarchy
Let's talk Relationship Anarchy, priorities, and hierarchy. Those of you who are even a little familiar with relationship anarchy (even...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 27
- 2 min
Mindset, Growth, and Grief in Relationships
Our cultural messaging around relationships, around self-knowledge, and around love (of the self and of each other) is focused very...
Laura Boyle
- Jan 30
- 2 min
Compromise and What's Expected
There are a number of social conventions that are broadly undermined by polyamorous relating but especially so by non-hierarchical...
Laura Boyle
- Jan 2
- 2 min
Compatibility & Non-monogamy
When we move from a monogamous to a non-monogamous context, sometimes the contraction of our dating pool can make it feel like the most...
Laura Boyle
- Dec 4, 2023
- 2 min
Relationship Anarchy - A Smorgasbord of Options "Instead of Entitlement"
You may have heard of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord - a concept which takes a metaphor of relationships as meals where you and...
Laura Boyle
- Nov 28, 2023
- 3 min
I Don't Want HER Date! - Differentiating Relationships
It can feel very natural, when seeing multiple people, if you have a really nice experience (try a good restaurant that turns out to be...
Laura Boyle
- Nov 24, 2023
- 2 min
Commitment off the Escalator
We talked last time about the Relationship Escalator, the social expectations that generally circumscribe romantic relationships in our...
Laura Boyle
- Nov 21, 2023
- 3 min
What is the Relationship Escalator?
I was having coffee with a friend the other day and catching up about our recent dating lives (and their complications in labels and lack...
Laura Boyle
- Nov 16, 2023
- 2 min
Don't Force It
Have you ever had a hinge partner insist on a particular relationship between you and a metamour? Either directly, or by only having time...
Laura Boyle
- Oct 26, 2023
- 6 min
Home for the Polydays
Let's talk about polyamory and the holiday season. (Sorry, Canadian friends - I know you already did Thanksgiving, and I hope it was...
Laura Boyle
- Sep 25, 2023
- 3 min
It Doesn't Look the Same Twice
If you took snapshots of my polyamorous life from the moment 17 years ago when I was on a date and was asked if I'd heard of polyamory?...
Laura Boyle
- Sep 15, 2023
- 3 min
Seven Days of Kink, Parts 3 and 4: Do you like D/s? How Much?
Sorry for skipping a day on you folks, life ate me a little bit - and these two prompts go nicely together, so you'll maybe forgive me....
Laura Boyle
- Sep 13, 2023
- 2 min
Seven Days of Kink, Part 2: Nostalgia
Today for 7 days of Kink, the prompt was "What is your favorite kink, and why?" and my short answer was impact, and my long answer was a...
Laura Boyle
- Sep 12, 2023
- 3 min
Seven Days of Kink, Part 1: Origin Story
Welcome to the Seven Days of Kink series here on Ready for Polyamory. As you'll have noticed if you've been around here a while, my...
Laura Boyle
- Sep 5, 2023
- 3 min
Boundaries Are Different for Everybody
Boundaries are for everyone - but the boundaries you set are different with each person or type of person. We don't set the same type of...
Laura Boyle
- Sep 1, 2023
- 2 min
Relationship Agreement Tune Ups
Does your communication need a tune-up? Folks often find themselves talking at cross-purposes when they’re talking about relationship...
Laura Boyle
- Aug 21, 2023
- 2 min
Relationships Aren't About Conflict
If you consume enough Internet Relationship Content (or if you came to Earth from another planet and were studying the humans) you might...
Laura Boyle
- Aug 11, 2023
- 4 min
Mitigating Couple's Privilege
Let's talk Couple's Privilege. I came here to answer a question from my TikTok and Instagram about what we can do to mitigate couple's...
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