Classes and Events

Where to find Laura and Ready for Polyamory, online and in person, at upcoming events. Contact me at readyforpolyamory@gmail.com if you'd like to book me for your event or a class at your venue; I'm available digitally and in person in 2022. A partial class listing can be found on the about page of this site.

Boundary Expression and Enforcement (a 101 Class from a Former Doormat) - Digital Class with Pragmatically Kinking

November 8, 2022, 8 pm Eastern Time

Communication of needs and boundaries is the foundation of self-care in all relationships, but especially polyamorous relationships, where additional moving parts may necessitate additional communication around situational and emotional changes. This class is a roundup of strategies that I've been offered over the years by therapists, partners, and my own imagination, to help attendees build their toolbox for this type of interaction. PK runs one class a month on a donation system, splitting between a charitable cause and the presenter, this is that class for the month. See the event link here for details on how to sign up and donate.

Boundary Expression and Enforcement (a 101 Class from a Former Doormat) - Digital Class for Wicked Grounds

November 29, 2022, 9 pm Eastern Time (6 pm Pacific)

Communication of needs and boundaries is the foundation of self-care in all relationships, but especially polyamorous relationships, where additional moving parts may necessitate additional communication around situational and emotional changes. This class is a roundup of strategies that I've been offered over the years by therapists, partners, and my own imagination, to help attendees build their toolbox for this type of interaction. Link to sliding scale tickets is here.

Polyamory and Parenting - Digital class with Pragmatically Kinking

December 10, 2022, 3pm Eastern Time

Many polyamorous people have to address the strawman reaction of “But what about the children?” When they come out as polyamorous - and still more have concerns about how their relationships will intersect with them or their partners having children. This class touches on some of the biggest “kid issues” polyamorous folks will face. PK runs one class a month on a donation system, splitting between a charitable cause and the presenter, this is that class for the month. See the event link here for details on how to sign up and donate.

Non-Escalator Relationships: Strategies and Challenges - Digital class for Wicked Grounds

December 11, 2022 5pm Eastern, 2pm Pacific

In polyamorous relationships, but especially solopolyamorous or Relationship Anarchist relationships, we often step off the “relationship escalator” - that “first comes love, then comes marriage” pattern we all know from nursery rhymes that says our relationships are most valid if they end in the death of one half of the dyad after a lifetime together. Relationships that choose to operate otherwise pick their own milestones, celebrations, and end points, and this class offers up a discussion of the various ways folks have chosen to do this as well as strategies to overcome common challenges to living life “off the escalator.” Link to sliding scale tickets is here.

Bottoming Safety 201: Negotiation for Edgeplay - Digital Class for Wicked Grounds.

December 28, 2022, 9 pm Eastern Time, 6 Pacific

We'll be discussing how best to negotiate scenes with partners both new and established for several kinds of kink play considered "edge play." This will include:

 - what is edge play? and how the definition of this can shift in a RACK kink framework - an overview on boundaries and limits, both hard and soft, and how to convey them to folks you'd like to play with as well as respecting them yourself through safe wording or safe signaling

- how to establish safe signs or signals for play where you can't safeword by the design of the scene

- concerns about aftercare for bottoms and tops in intense scenes, and particularly in scenes where we may be treading close to personal triggers

- concrete ideas about things to ask when playing with: fire, breathplay, knives, blood, needles, intense roleplay, and rope suspension or rope that limits your personal ability to safeword.

 

Negotiation is how we can do What It Is That We Do in a way that is consensual and as safe as we can make it; acquiring specific skills for negotiating edgeplay with less trial-by-fire is a win for the community as a whole. Especially for bottoms who may be interested in an underlying way in certain play but may lack concrete knowledge, this class is intended to empower folks for more direct communication of limits, and to give some additional tools for expressing themselves in negotiation, although it is a "take what you need and leave the rest" overview of many types of play under this umbrella. Link to sliding scale tickets is here.

Polyamory Peer Support and Coaching

Do you need an affirmation boost over a rough patch in your polyamorous journey? Relationship advice from someone not emotionally invested in any party? Relationship advice from someone where you don't need to explain what a metamour is to let them know the situation, or who is already familiar with non-monogamy, kink, or queer relationships when your friends may not be? A judgement-free ear to hear your situation as you process it out loud? Some more tailored resource recommendations than a general list can provide?

This is some of what my confidential 1-on-1 peer support services are. I offer short time frame options if you simply need to get something off your chest in a judgement-free space or if you want to see if you like our chemistry before committing to an hour long appointment; and I include the option to talk to me as a dyad or section of a polycule if you're sharing a struggle and think a neutral third party will help.
First appointments can be made and booking instructions found here.