Needs and Wants
One of the big upsides of polyamory folks often point out is that you have the option of getting your emotional and relational needs met...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 10, 20215 min read
Cambridge, MA Passes Polyamorous Domestic Partnership Ordinance
Remember, on the podcast, we were talking about how Cambridge was working on changes to its domestic partnership ordinance to make it...
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Laura Boyle
Jul 15, 20202 min read
Find your Flavor of Polyamory
Polyamory is a Choose Your Own Adventure Book The upside of polyamory, as I hope I’ve said on this blog before, and I’ve said in every...
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Laura Boyle
Jul 8, 20202 min read
Independence is important
In polyamory in general, independence and autonomy are important. If you’re in a couple that is trying to open up to polyamory for the...
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Laura Boyle
May 13, 20204 min read
Zero-Sum Thinking
This isn’t just a polyamory thing. This is a Life Thing. Zero-sum Thinking is the idea that if someone else has something, there’s less...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 17, 20205 min read
Love Languages and Polyamory
The idea of “love languages,” or that some people express love in different ways than others, has in some form or another been around...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 15, 20205 min read
Compersion Is Not Mandatory
Compersion is a word you probably won’t use or hear unless you’re polyamorous, or have a lot of polyamorous friends. I define it in this...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 3, 20205 min read
But Don’t You Get Jealous?
Or, a brief examination of sexual and emotional jealousy and the ways polyamorous people are not immune to them Polyamorous people are...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 18, 20202 min read
Kitchen Table Polyamory and Parallel Polyamory: Introduction
Today's post introduces an eight post series on the spectrum of parallel and kitchen table polyamory. There are wonderful, healthy...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 11, 202014 min read
Just The STI Facts, Ma'am
If you don’t get my extremely dated reference, that man is a character from one of the first police procedurals, the 1950s Dragnet, Joe...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 6, 20204 min read
The Relationship Escalator
The concept of the relationship escalator has existed for as long as modern nuclear families, but the term was coined in 2012, when Amy...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 4, 20203 min read
Questions to Ask When Dating While Polyamorous
These are important questions to think about if you haven’t, and to include your answers and get your potential partners’ answers in...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 2, 20206 min read
Navigating Boundaries and Agreements When You're Both Polyamorous
Last time we were discussing the formation of relationship agreements, we were talking about people who were coming to polyamory...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 25, 20203 min read
What Are Relationship Agreements?
The central tenet of polyamory, and of all ethical non-monogamy, is “Make agreements within your relationships, and stick to them.” Some...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 24, 20203 min read
What Is Polyamory, Anyway?
Polyamory is a made-up English word for a variety of non-traditional relationships that makes classicists cringe, because it mixes Greek...
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