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Polyamorous Dating and Raising Standards
There's a lot of talk in polyam spaces about "allowing relationships to be whatever they will be" and not being "limited by labels" - and...
Laura Boyle
Sep 21, 20223 min read
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Podcast Season 6 Episode 3: Polyamory on TV
"It's just been wild to see the explosion of representation of polyamory on tv the last few years." "When I started my polyamory in media...
Laura Boyle
Aug 18, 20221 min read
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Podcast Season 6 Episode 2: Asking for Wants and Needs
Impact-Site-Verification: 74d5b551-6ed2-4283-a230-434b2af9c155 “I find that minimizing other relationships doesn’t do what people think...
Laura Boyle
Aug 11, 20221 min read
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Podcast Season 6, Episode 1: High Standards, Low Expectations
"We don't automatically or invisibly put expectations on each other - that leads to resentment and conflict." "To heck with the hyper...
Laura Boyle
Aug 4, 20221 min read
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Being Positive About Polyamory
There is exceptional pressure, as a non-normative style of relating, to share only, or very primarily, the good things about polyamorous...
Laura Boyle
Jul 26, 20222 min read
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Attending Meetups & Building Community
Historically, I've been pretty snarky about who all is "in community" if you get enough polyamorous people together. But if you're going...
Laura Boyle
Jul 7, 20226 min read
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The OPP and Polyamory
So, unlike in the Naughty by Nature song, in polyamorous community and polyam relationships, OPP stands for One Penis Policy. I've talked...
Laura Boyle
Jun 22, 20223 min read
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Triad or V - What's More Complicated?
I get a lot of people new to polyamory insisting that they must date together, or meet people together, because it "will be less...
Laura Boyle
Jun 16, 20224 min read
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Favorites and Special Activities in Polyamory
Once upon a time, I was in a relatively new (less than a year) relationship, and it was coming up on our first Christmas together. It was...
Laura Boyle
Jun 14, 20223 min read
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Podcast Season 5 Episode 10: Polyamory and Parenting (Part 2)
"Sometimes a particular adult's involvement ebbs and flows but there isn't the kind of sudden disappearance or 'revolving door' that...
Laura Boyle
Jun 9, 20222 min read
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My Top Advice For New Polyamorous People
I don't usually do lists, but there are a few things that I encounter over and over again working with people new to polyamory, both...
Laura Boyle
Jun 7, 20228 min read
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Podcast Season 5 Episode 9: Jealousy and Compersion
"Acknowledging compersion isn't denying our jealousy. You can have a lot of different emotional 'foods' on your 'plate' at once." "We...
Laura Boyle
Jun 2, 20222 min read
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What's in A Name? Cocktail Party Polycules
I'm actually wildly in love with the fact that there are so many terms for the liminal space between kitchen table and parallel...
Laura Boyle
May 31, 20225 min read
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Podcast Season 5 Episode 8: De-escalation
LISTEN HERE "I really think we could de-escalate the use of de-escalation as a term. Let's talk about transitions and changes maybe...
Laura Boyle
May 26, 20222 min read
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Podcast Season 5 Episode 7: Polyamorous Pride
"The purpose of a pride flag is unification and visibility for the represented group - and the current polyamory flag does neither." "If...
Laura Boyle
May 19, 20222 min read
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Season 5, Episode 6: Solo Polyamorous Living
"Solopolyamory flies in the face of this idea that if you love someone you'll want to be with them 24/7. It's just not true. We're here...
Laura Boyle
May 12, 20221 min read
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Queerplatonic Relationships: Polybromantic, much?
I was texting with a good friend of mine last week, and he started describing some of his relationships, and how they weren't precisely...
Laura Boyle
May 9, 20226 min read
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Podcast Season 5 Episode 5: Mono plus Polyam Relationships
"In this structure now, I have been able to figure out who I am and what I want. That isn't to say I haven't gone on dates - I've tried...
Laura Boyle
May 5, 20222 min read
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Podcast Season 5 Episode 4: Polyamory and Kink
Today's episode contains frank discussion of sexuality and kink dynamics, listener be aware. "I feel like no one really talks about the...
Laura Boyle
Apr 28, 20222 min read
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Why Say Telemour?
A telemour, for those of you not familiar with the term, is a partner of your metamour who is not the shared one between you. (If you're...
Laura Boyle
Apr 26, 20222 min read
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