Season 2 Episode 9: Why We Fight and How We Make Up
Updated: Mar 7
"But what if your partner gave you a bouquet of spoons, instead?"
This week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, I got a chance to talk with Orphne Sicarius, an awesome person who keeps their internet presence pseudonymous because their in-person work as coordinator and clinician for a county-wide Forensic Nurse Examiner Program for living victims of violent sexual trauma requires a certain amount of delicate handling. They've been polyamorous and out in all areas of their life for about five years and were happy to lend their perspective on interpersonal conflict and conflict resolution for this podcast episode focused broadly on Love Languages and Apology Languages, and how these concepts apply in polyamorous networks.
We had an awesome conversation rolling between general information about love languages and apology languages to what different kinds of more and less invested conflict can look like (and whether we agree about only getting in big fights if it's a hill we're willing to die on). It was a pretty great conversation to get to have, and I hope you enjoy listening to it.
Related blog posts at Ready for Polyamory include:
Apology Languages: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/apology-languages
Is this fight a hill worth dying on?https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/is-this-a-hill-i-m-really-willing-to-die-on
Fighting to lose: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fighting-to-lose
Breakups in polyamory: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory
I’m going to be teaching at Tethered to Wifi 2.0, a virtual conference on rope, movement, & relationships, March 19-21! It looks like I’ll be teaching Saturday morning, but the final schedule is still TBD. Tickets for the weekend are $25 for the rest of February and are available at tetheredtogether.net; There are a lot of great presenters, check it out.
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