As I remind people every year, February 28 is our own polyamorous hallmark holiday: Metamour's Day!
Metamour is one of the pieces of polyam jargon that is actually really handy - because while when you're close with a metamour (your partner's other partner with whom you are not romantically involved) you might just be able to call them a friend, sometimes that isn't quite the relationship you have, or you don't know what it will be, or it's in flux, and having a word that draws a veil over all of that lets you take those thoughts and changes at any pace you need.
I have, over the years, had metas with whom I have & had relationships varying from "we can be in the same room I guess" to "neither of us dates that person but we're still friends ten years later." I'd like to give a special shoutout to my current metas, for rolling through several iterations of closeness and distance while maintaining open communication about our boundaries over the last six years - because it's not always easy, and a global pandemic didn't help any, and we're doing better than ever.
Some metamour-themed posts from the blog, for Metamour's Day:
Metamour's Day 2020 post, featuring a nice polyam memory and a comic by Tivka Wolf: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/metamour-s-day
The beginning of the Relationship Spectrum series, which is mostly about how close you choose to be (or not be) with your metas.
The season 1 podcast episode about metamours: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/podcast-episode-8-relationships-with-metamours
"Negotiating with metamours: A practical guide": https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/negotiating-interactions-with-metamours-a-practical-guide
Metamour's Day 2021: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/metamour-s-day-and-the-winner-of-our-giveaway
"Meeting your metas and Insecurity": https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/insecurity-and-meeting-metamours
"You don't have a metamour problem": https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/you-don-t-have-a-metamour-problem
I'll be teaching two classes and hosting a polyam mixer at Tethered Together in Stamford CT March 11-13. Tickets are available until March 4 at 11:59, if you can join me! My fellow presenters are AMAZING and it'll be a packed weekend of rope, relationships, and movement classes. You can always check out my Events page to see what other classes and events I've got coming up.