Forbearance
It is an absolute truism in polyamory that communication is everything - and for good reason, none of us are mind readers and only by...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 7, 20222 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 1: Polyamory and Parenting
"You have to take the space to take care of yourself and notice if you haven't made space for yourself outside of parenthood in a long...
Laura Boyle
Apr 4, 20223 min
Priorities and Values
We've talked a lot on the blog about hierarchies, implied, presumed, explicit, prescriptive and descriptive. The underlying message of...
Laura Boyle
Mar 31, 20226 min
Why De-escalation?
The polyamorous community at large (this blog included) talks a fair bit about de-escalating relationships and how the option to change...
Laura Boyle
Mar 28, 20224 min
Lap-Sitting Polyamory
What is Lap-Sitting Polyamory? Lap-sitting polyamory is the form of polyamory that this blog previously called "kitchen table polyamory...
Laura Boyle
Mar 22, 20229 min
Practical Tips for Going Parallel with Your Metamour
Many of us, in the course of our polyamorous journeys, will have a metamour who we just don't vibe with - who things sit just a little...
Laura Boyle
Mar 15, 20222 min
Differentiating Dynamics
Do you prefer walks on the beach with one partner, and hikes with another? Do you like piña coladas? ...The point of this line of...
Laura Boyle
Mar 10, 20224 min
Barriers, "Fluid Bonding," and Other Conversations
I don't love the term "fluid bonding." It's in common enough use that I don't pretend it isn't there or correct a partner to some other...
Laura Boyle
Mar 7, 20223 min
What's in a Name? Polyamorous Jargon
In doing online education, I've spent a lot of time talking with people about "all those polyamorous words" and whether we need them and...
Laura Boyle
Mar 1, 202211 min
Guest Post: Is There a Problem with Hierarchy?
As many of my writing pieces do, this one germinated from a seed planted in a conversation with Laura. I started my first polyamorous...
Laura Boyle
Feb 28, 20222 min
Metamour's Day 2022
As I remind people every year, February 28 is our own polyamorous hallmark holiday: Metamour's Day! Metamour is one of the pieces of...
Laura Boyle
Feb 21, 20227 min
Veto Power
Despite veto power in relationships being one of the most-often-discussed rules that folks come up with for their early polyam...
Laura Boyle
Feb 16, 20222 min
The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord
Have you heard of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord? It's a graphic/worksheet that you can download here, for talking about some of...
Laura Boyle
Feb 14, 20221 min
Valentine's Day Book Sale
Happy Valentine's Day! Thank you all for being part of my life this year. To show my appreciation for this blog and surrounding...
Laura Boyle
Feb 10, 20224 min
NRE, ERE, and the Ebb and Flow
New Relationship Energy (NRE) is a term you hear about a lot in polyamorous circles - and we've talked about it here on the blog before -...
Laura Boyle
Feb 8, 20223 min
The Polyamory Foundation
It's Polyamory Week, which is a great time to talk about a new resource available to creatives, organizers, and educators in our polyam...
Laura Boyle
Feb 1, 20224 min
Polyamorous Valentine's Day
We talked about Thanksgiving and Christmas back in the fall, but for many polyam people, Valentine’s Day is equally fraught. If you’re...
Laura Boyle
Jan 28, 20221 min
Podcast Season 4 Episode 9: Polyamory in Fiction
In this week's podcast episode, Laura and her friend Abbie K. (Tiktok's @Polyanarchy) talk about a variety of fiction they've read that...
Laura Boyle
Jan 21, 20221 min
Podcast Season 4 Episode 8: Polyamorous Cohabitation
"Once or twice a year hotels are an adventure... more than that it just becomes an expense" Laura and her friend Corwin met because they...
Laura Boyle
Jan 19, 20222 min
How Useful Are Labels?
Do you find labels for your interaction with your polycule helpful, or limiting? I know some folks find it much easier to have...
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