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Laura Boyle
Apr 6, 20205 min read
Love in the Time of Covid-19: Maintaining your relationships and your polycule in a pandemic
I really debated whether to write and post this. First, because I wanted to try to make my posts mostly useful forever, or at least...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 3, 20205 min read
But Don’t You Get Jealous?
Or, a brief examination of sexual and emotional jealousy and the ways polyamorous people are not immune to them Polyamorous people are...
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Laura Boyle
Apr 1, 20205 min read
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 8: Extreme Parallel and Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell
In this last part of our Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory series, we’re looking at the extreme end of the parallel part of the...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 30, 20205 min read
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 7: Strictly Parallel Relationships
We went through a lot of theory in Part 6 of this series - and very little in the way of stories and practical examples. A lot of that...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 27, 20204 min read
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 6: Mildly Parallel Relationships
Rather than focusing on a polycule, today, we’re going to focus on how a pair of dyad relationships, each involving one common person,...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 25, 20207 min read
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 5: The Polycule With a Little of Everything
Most extended constellations or big polycules are actually a mix of kitchen table and parallel polyamorous styles. You hit a point where...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 23, 20205 min read
Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory: Part 4, Kitchen Table Polyamory
Today, we have the basic idea of Kitchen Table Polyamory: being friendly among all of each other’s partners that could sit and have a cup...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 20, 20207 min read
Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory, Part 3: Kitchen Table with “Extras”
Beyond the basic idea of having a cup of coffee at the kitchen table, people’s idea of “kitchen table polyamory” can vary widely. When...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 18, 20202 min read
Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory: Part 2: Extreme Kitchen Table
If we see entwinement of a specific relationship in a network as a spectrum, on one end we have Extreme Kitchen Table; the...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 18, 20202 min read
Kitchen Table Polyamory and Parallel Polyamory: Introduction
Today's post introduces an eight post series on the spectrum of parallel and kitchen table polyamory. There are wonderful, healthy...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 13, 20205 min read
Fluid Bonding - Feelings and Risk Profile
“Fluid Bonding” or “Fluid Bonded” is a phrase used to indicate that a partner or a part of a network exchanges bodily fluids through...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 11, 202014 min read
Just The STI Facts, Ma'am
If you don’t get my extremely dated reference, that man is a character from one of the first police procedurals, the 1950s Dragnet, Joe...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 9, 20203 min read
Sexual Safety Part 1: The Personal Side
While polyamory is definitely not all about sex, sexual contact is part of many, if not most, romantic relationships. As a result,...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 6, 20204 min read
The Relationship Escalator
The concept of the relationship escalator has existed for as long as modern nuclear families, but the term was coined in 2012, when Amy...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 4, 20203 min read
Questions to Ask When Dating While Polyamorous
These are important questions to think about if you haven’t, and to include your answers and get your potential partners’ answers in...
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Laura Boyle
Mar 2, 20206 min read
Navigating Boundaries and Agreements When You're Both Polyamorous
Last time we were discussing the formation of relationship agreements, we were talking about people who were coming to polyamory...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 28, 20202 min read
Metamour's Day:
Valentine’s Day times 2; 14+14, February 28, has been declared Metamour’s Day, and it seems to be being taken up by the community in...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 27, 20205 min read
If you're new to polyamory with a partner...
...some agreements need to be made about how you're changing your relationship. I realized the strategies I want to present for helping...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 25, 20203 min read
What Are Relationship Agreements?
The central tenet of polyamory, and of all ethical non-monogamy, is “Make agreements within your relationships, and stick to them.” Some...
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Laura Boyle
Feb 24, 20206 min read
A Brief History of Polyamory
There were religiously-based forms of non-monogamy, ethical and otherwise, from the dawn of time to the present. Christopher Ryan and...
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