But Who Sleeps Where? Polyamorous Cohabitation
It's a pretty standard (and occasional pet peeve) question to polyamorous folks who choose to live together - "Where do you all SLEEP?"...
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Laura Boyle
- Nov 22
- 3 min
Taking Space
In this post I talked about the ways that lacking scripts for polyamorous breakups can allow for more complex possibilities - but also...
Laura Boyle
- Oct 22
- 7 min
Ways To Support Polyamorous Parents
It comes up here occasionally that I have kids. They're both under 10, they're funny and cute, and I love them even when they aren't...
Laura Boyle
- Oct 10
- 3 min
Coping with NRE
My title will confuse some of you, because NRE (New Relationship Energy) can be very polarizing - some folks love being carried along on...
Laura Boyle
- Oct 6
- 1 min
Season 6 Episode 5: Non-Binary Polyamorous Experience
"It's really just a matter of making sure people really see me, Ebony, and me includes non-binary identity as well as the experience of...
Laura Boyle
- Sep 21
- 3 min
Polyamorous Dating and Raising Standards
There's a lot of talk in polyam spaces about "allowing relationships to be whatever they will be" and not being "limited by labels" - and...
Laura Boyle
- Aug 18
- 1 min
Podcast Season 6 Episode 3: Polyamory on TV
"It's just been wild to see the explosion of representation of polyamory on tv the last few years." "When I started my polyamory in media...
Laura Boyle
- Aug 11
- 1 min
Podcast Season 6 Episode 2: Asking for Wants and Needs
“I find that minimizing other relationships doesn’t do what people think it will- you have to move through discomfort anyway.” “If you...
Laura Boyle
- Aug 4
- 1 min
Podcast Season 6, Episode 1: High Standards, Low Expectations
"We don't automatically or invisibly put expectations on each other - that leads to resentment and conflict." "To heck with the hyper...
Laura Boyle
- Jul 26
- 2 min
Being Positive About Polyamory
There is exceptional pressure, as a non-normative style of relating, to share only, or very primarily, the good things about polyamorous...
Laura Boyle
- Jul 7
- 6 min
Attending Meetups & Building Community
Historically, I've been pretty snarky about who all is "in community" if you get enough polyamorous people together. But if you're going...
Laura Boyle
- Jun 22
- 3 min
The OPP and Polyamory
So, unlike in the Naughty by Nature song, in polyamorous community and polyam relationships, OPP stands for One Penis Policy. I've talked...
Laura Boyle
- Jun 16
- 4 min
Triad or V - What's More Complicated?
I get a lot of people new to polyamory insisting that they must date together, or meet people together, because it "will be less...
Laura Boyle
- Jun 14
- 3 min
Favorites and Special Activities in Polyamory
Once upon a time, I was in a relatively new (less than a year) relationship, and it was coming up on our first Christmas together. It was...
Laura Boyle
- Jun 9
- 2 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 10: Polyamory and Parenting (Part 2)
"Sometimes a particular adult's involvement ebbs and flows but there isn't the kind of sudden disappearance or 'revolving door' that...
Laura Boyle
- Jun 7
- 8 min
My Top Advice For New Polyamorous People
I don't usually do lists, but there are a few things that I encounter over and over again working with people new to polyamory, both...
Laura Boyle
- Jun 2
- 2 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 9: Jealousy and Compersion
"Acknowledging compersion isn't denying our jealousy. You can have a lot of different emotional 'foods' on your 'plate' at once." "We...
Laura Boyle
- May 31
- 5 min
What's in A Name? Cocktail Party Polycules
I'm actually wildly in love with the fact that there are so many terms for the liminal space between kitchen table and parallel...
Laura Boyle
- May 26
- 2 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 8: De-escalation
LISTEN HERE "I really think we could de-escalate the use of de-escalation as a term. Let's talk about transitions and changes maybe...
Laura Boyle
- May 19
- 2 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 7: Polyamorous Pride
"The purpose of a pride flag is unification and visibility for the represented group - and the current polyamory flag does neither." "If...
