“There is a horrible kind of conceited independence,” says Miss Bingley in Pride and Prejudice, talking of Elizabeth Bennet’s willingness...

Today’s post is titled after a tenet of the Relationship Anarchist manifesto. It’s an idea that I try to have guide all my human...

My podcast baby is a year old!! This week's episode was live in video on facebook live - and that's going to get shared maybe? at some...

You know how all the innovative, beautifully progressive-for-its-time art of 30 years ago is deeply cringey to rewatch now, if also...

June, and Pride, and the “who belongs at Pride and who doesn’t and why” discourse always gives me a big bundle of Feelings, with an...

Jealousy is presented as the mind-killer in polyamory a lot of the time, but it's a presentation of all kinds of other emotions and...

It’s not always so easy to see the problems coming in a relationship. We’re beginning to talk now about not just red flags, but green...

Envy, or FOMO (fear of missing out), or a subset of what we generally call jealousy, is undeniably real in polyamory. But it’s undeniably...

"You're nesting- like little birds!" Laura this week examines labels for relationships (rather than labels for self-identity) and how...

Sometimes, when you’re coming up with an agreement or a rule that a hinge is going to have to apply in more than one relationship (say, a...

Some people (like yours truly) are talkers - they show interest by sharing the everyday and mundane in any format available to them...

"I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least." In today's...

And that title isn’t a Jedi mind trick. Nine times out of ten, your conflict “because of your metamour” isn’t actually a metamour...

I get asked questions about triads a lot. This is contributed to by several factors, I think. First, because a lot of mainstream media...

"So, you know, I have to watch out for standard bad coping mechanisms like drinking too much and getting under someone to get over...

On April 28, the popular Facebook Watch show “Red Table Talk,” (a vehicle for Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith, and Jada’s mother...

After traditional childhood and young adult milestones of high school and college and their attendant clubs, sports, fraternities,...

Here’s my ‘hot take’ - relationships aren’t that hard. The popular image of relationships as struggle and a desert or an ocean that you’d...

"You know, flowers and... I don't know, what's like a flower? Rose colored glasses?" As an expansion of last week's podcast, Laura...

"I feel like you're telling me a true story here-" Laura and David answer the important questions about application and theory of...