Not All Flags Are Bright Red
It’s not always so easy to see the problems coming in a relationship. We’re beginning to talk now about not just red flags, but green...
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Laura Boyle
- Jun 1, 2021
- 3 min
Envy is Real
Envy, or FOMO (fear of missing out), or a subset of what we generally call jealousy, is undeniably real in polyamory. But it’s undeniably...
Laura Boyle
- May 29, 2021
- 1 min
Season 3 Episode 8: Labels
"You're nesting- like little birds!" Laura this week examines labels for relationships (rather than labels for self-identity) and how...
Laura Boyle
- May 27, 2021
- 4 min
Differing Opinions in a Polycule
Sometimes, when you’re coming up with an agreement or a rule that a hinge is going to have to apply in more than one relationship (say, a...
Laura Boyle
- May 25, 2021
- 3 min
Hard to Open, Hard to Close, and Hard to Send - Communication Styles
Some people (like yours truly) are talkers - they show interest by sharing the everyday and mundane in any format available to them...
Laura Boyle
- May 22, 2021
- 1 min
Season 3 Episode 7: Early Relationship Agreements
"I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least." In today's...
Laura Boyle
- May 20, 2021
- 2 min
You Don't Have a Metamour Problem
And that title isn’t a Jedi mind trick. Nine times out of ten, your conflict “because of your metamour” isn’t actually a metamour...
Laura Boyle
- May 18, 2021
- 6 min
Triad Questions
I get asked questions about triads a lot. This is contributed to by several factors, I think. First, because a lot of mainstream media...
Laura Boyle
- May 15, 2021
- 1 min
Season 3 Episode 6: Polyamorous Breakups
"So, you know, I have to watch out for standard bad coping mechanisms like drinking too much and getting under someone to get over...
Laura Boyle
- May 14, 2021
- 3 min
Red Table Talk on Polyamory
On April 28, the popular Facebook Watch show “Red Table Talk,” (a vehicle for Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith, and Jada’s mother...
Laura Boyle
- May 12, 2021
- 6 min
Expectations of Connection
After traditional childhood and young adult milestones of high school and college and their attendant clubs, sports, fraternities,...
Laura Boyle
- May 10, 2021
- 3 min
Relationships Shouldn't Be That Hard
Here’s my ‘hot take’ - relationships aren’t that hard. The popular image of relationships as struggle and a desert or an ocean that you’d...
Laura Boyle
- May 8, 2021
- 1 min
Season 3 Episode 5: FWB and Play Partners
"You know, flowers and... I don't know, what's like a flower? Rose colored glasses?" As an expansion of last week's podcast, Laura...
Laura Boyle
- May 3, 2021
- 2 min
Season 3 Episode 4: Relationship Anarchy
"I feel like you're telling me a true story here-" Laura and David answer the important questions about application and theory of...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 29, 2021
- 1 min
Arlington, MA Recognizes 3+ Person Domestic Partnerships
On April 28, 2021, Arlington, MA joined its neighbors Somerville and Cambridge in allowing legal recognition of domestic partnership...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 27, 2021
- 3 min
Theory and Practice
One of the questions that people often ask each other early on in potential polyamrous relationships is “how do you do polyamory?” This...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 24, 2021
- 1 min
Season 3 Episode 3: Emotional Processing
"Externally, I haven't changed much - I'm always going to be a possum in goth makeup - but internally I'm very different than just a few...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 22, 2021
- 3 min
Jealousy and Hierarchy
Hierarchy is one of the concepts in polyamory that stirs up strong feelings in conversation every time it comes up. There’s a contingent...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 20, 2021
- 3 min
Fear and Joy
One of the tenets of the Relationship Anarchist Manifesto is “Heterosexism is rampant, but don’t let fear lead you.” It is expanded into...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 17, 2021
- 1 min
Season 3 Episode 2: Attachment Theory
"I just want to note, after giving so many lectures the past few months and being asked a lot about being a 'good poly person' - there...
