Podcast Season 5 Episode 3: Change and Balance in your CNM Ecosystem
"Nothing I do ever goes viral, but one of my posts that did pretty well recently said 'I want my polyamory to be less about compersion...
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Laura Boyle
- Apr 18
- 9 min
Polyamorous Time: Needs and Expectations
Over on TikTok in March, we had a conversation about "Polyamorous Time" - about the deviation from monogamous norms about enmeshing all...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 14
- 1 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 2: Polyamory Advice is Relationship Advice
"I'm relationship style agnostic - I don't think there's one right way to do relationships, but gosh are there a lot of really crappy...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 12
- 2 min
Forbearance
It is an absolute truism in polyamory that communication is everything - and for good reason, none of us are mind readers and only by...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 7
- 2 min
Podcast Season 5 Episode 1: Polyamory and Parenting
"You have to take the space to take care of yourself and notice if you haven't made space for yourself outside of parenthood in a long...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 4
- 3 min
Priorities and Values
We've talked a lot on the blog about hierarchies, implied, presumed, explicit, prescriptive and descriptive. The underlying message of...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 31
- 6 min
Why De-escalation?
The polyamorous community at large (this blog included) talks a fair bit about de-escalating relationships and how the option to change...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 28
- 4 min
Lap-Sitting Polyamory
What is Lap-Sitting Polyamory? Lap-sitting polyamory is the form of polyamory that this blog previously called "kitchen table polyamory...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 22
- 9 min
Practical Tips for Going Parallel with Your Metamour
Many of us, in the course of our polyamorous journeys, will have a metamour who we just don't vibe with - who things sit just a little...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 15
- 2 min
Differentiating Dynamics
Do you prefer walks on the beach with one partner, and hikes with another? Do you like piña coladas? ...The point of this line of...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 10
- 4 min
Barriers, "Fluid Bonding," and Other Conversations
I don't love the term "fluid bonding." It's in common enough use that I don't pretend it isn't there or correct a partner to some other...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 7
- 3 min
What's in a Name? Polyamorous Jargon
In doing online education, I've spent a lot of time talking with people about "all those polyamorous words" and whether we need them and...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 1
- 11 min
Guest Post: Is There a Problem with Hierarchy?
As many of my writing pieces do, this one germinated from a seed planted in a conversation with Laura. I started my first polyamorous...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 28
- 2 min
Metamour's Day 2022
As I remind people every year, February 28 is our own polyamorous hallmark holiday: Metamour's Day! Metamour is one of the pieces of...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 21
- 7 min
Veto Power
Despite veto power in relationships being one of the most-often-discussed rules that folks come up with for their early polyam...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 16
- 2 min
The Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord
Have you heard of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord? It's a graphic/worksheet that you can download here, for talking about some of...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 14
- 1 min
Valentine's Day Book Sale
Happy Valentine's Day! Thank you all for being part of my life this year. To show my appreciation for this blog and surrounding...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 10
- 4 min
NRE, ERE, and the Ebb and Flow
New Relationship Energy (NRE) is a term you hear about a lot in polyamorous circles - and we've talked about it here on the blog before -...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 8
- 3 min
The Polyamory Foundation
It's Polyamory Week, which is a great time to talk about a new resource available to creatives, organizers, and educators in our polyam...
Laura Boyle
- Feb 1
- 4 min
Polyamorous Valentine's Day
We talked about Thanksgiving and Christmas back in the fall, but for many polyam people, Valentine’s Day is equally fraught. If you’re...
