Removing Pressure to be "The One"
One of the things I mentioned in my What is the Best Thing About Polyamory entry (and that came up more than once in the comments on...
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Laura Boyle
- Apr 20, 2020
- 4 min
Advertising Polyamory
I have a deeply complicated relationship with all the press (especially tabloid press) polyamory has received lately. It’s a necessary...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 17, 2020
- 5 min
Love Languages and Polyamory
The idea of “love languages,” or that some people express love in different ways than others, has in some form or another been around...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 15, 2020
- 5 min
Compersion Is Not Mandatory
Compersion is a word you probably won’t use or hear unless you’re polyamorous, or have a lot of polyamorous friends. I define it in this...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 13, 2020
- 3 min
Inherent Hierarchy
There’s nothing wrong with hierarchy in polyamorous relationships so long as everyone knows it’s there. Hierarchy, or acknowledging that...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 10, 2020
- 4 min
What is the Best Thing About Polyamory?
The best thing about polyamory is that it lets me love myself above others without guilt. I don’t mean for this to sound selfish; and it...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 7, 2020
- 4 min
The Green Eyed Monster In My Life (Spoilers: It's Me)
There are lots of things in life that are Do As I Say, Not As I Do for a person sharing collective advice. I’m a LOT better about...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 6, 2020
- 5 min
Love in the Time of Covid-19: Maintaining your relationships and your polycule in a pandemic
I really debated whether to write and post this. First, because I wanted to try to make my posts mostly useful forever, or at least...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 3, 2020
- 5 min
But Don’t You Get Jealous?
Or, a brief examination of sexual and emotional jealousy and the ways polyamorous people are not immune to them Polyamorous people are...
Laura Boyle
- Apr 1, 2020
- 5 min
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 8: Extreme Parallel and Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell
In this last part of our Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory series, we’re looking at the extreme end of the parallel part of the...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 30, 2020
- 5 min
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 7: Strictly Parallel Relationships
We went through a lot of theory in Part 6 of this series - and very little in the way of stories and practical examples. A lot of that...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 27, 2020
- 4 min
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 6: Mildly Parallel Relationships
Rather than focusing on a polycule, today, we’re going to focus on how a pair of dyad relationships, each involving one common person,...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 25, 2020
- 7 min
Kitchen Table to Parallel Polyamory, Part 5: The Polycule With a Little of Everything
Most extended constellations or big polycules are actually a mix of kitchen table and parallel polyamorous styles. You hit a point where...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 23, 2020
- 5 min
Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory: Part 4, Kitchen Table Polyamory
Today, we have the basic idea of Kitchen Table Polyamory: being friendly among all of each other’s partners that could sit and have a cup...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 20, 2020
- 7 min
Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory, Part 3: Kitchen Table with “Extras”
Beyond the basic idea of having a cup of coffee at the kitchen table, people’s idea of “kitchen table polyamory” can vary widely. When...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 18, 2020
- 2 min
Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory: Part 2: Extreme Kitchen Table
If we see entwinement of a specific relationship in a network as a spectrum, on one end we have Extreme Kitchen Table; the...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 18, 2020
- 2 min
Kitchen Table Polyamory and Parallel Polyamory: Introduction
Today's post introduces an eight post series on the spectrum of parallel and kitchen table polyamory. There are wonderful, healthy...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 13, 2020
- 5 min
Fluid Bonding - Feelings and Risk Profile
“Fluid Bonding” or “Fluid Bonded” is a phrase used to indicate that a partner or a part of a network exchanges bodily fluids through...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 11, 2020
- 14 min
Just The STI Facts, Ma'am
If you don’t get my extremely dated reference, that man is a character from one of the first police procedurals, the 1950s Dragnet, Joe...
Laura Boyle
- Mar 9, 2020
- 3 min
Sexual Safety Part 1: The Personal Side
While polyamory is definitely not all about sex, sexual contact is part of many, if not most, romantic relationships. As a result,...
