Laura BoyleApr 5, 20215 minNeeds and WantsOne of the big upsides of polyamory folks often point out is that you have the option of getting your emotional and relational needs met...
Laura BoyleMar 10, 20215 minCambridge, MA Passes Polyamorous Domestic Partnership OrdinanceRemember, on the podcast, we were talking about how Cambridge was working on changes to its domestic partnership ordinance to make it...
Laura BoyleJul 15, 20202 minFind your Flavor of PolyamoryPolyamory is a Choose Your Own Adventure Book The upside of polyamory, as I hope I’ve said on this blog before, and I’ve said in every...
Laura BoyleJul 8, 20202 minIndependence is importantIn polyamory in general, independence and autonomy are important. If you’re in a couple that is trying to open up to polyamory for the...
Laura BoyleMay 13, 20204 minZero-Sum ThinkingThis isn’t just a polyamory thing. This is a Life Thing. Zero-sum Thinking is the idea that if someone else has something, there’s less...
Laura BoyleApr 17, 20205 minLove Languages and PolyamoryThe idea of “love languages,” or that some people express love in different ways than others, has in some form or another been around...
Laura BoyleApr 15, 20205 minCompersion Is Not MandatoryCompersion is a word you probably won’t use or hear unless you’re polyamorous, or have a lot of polyamorous friends. I define it in this...
Laura BoyleApr 3, 20205 minBut Don’t You Get Jealous?Or, a brief examination of sexual and emotional jealousy and the ways polyamorous people are not immune to them Polyamorous people are...
Laura BoyleMar 18, 20202 minKitchen Table Polyamory and Parallel Polyamory: IntroductionToday's post introduces an eight post series on the spectrum of parallel and kitchen table polyamory. There are wonderful, healthy...
Laura BoyleMar 12, 202014 minJust The STI Facts, Ma'amIf you don’t get my extremely dated reference, that man is a character from one of the first police procedurals, the 1950s Dragnet, Joe...
Laura BoyleMar 6, 20204 minThe Relationship EscalatorThe concept of the relationship escalator has existed for as long as modern nuclear families, but the term was coined in 2012, when Amy...
Laura BoyleMar 4, 20203 minQuestions to Ask When Dating While PolyamorousThese are important questions to think about if you haven’t, and to include your answers and get your potential partners’ answers in...
Laura BoyleMar 2, 20206 minNavigating Boundaries and Agreements When You're Both PolyamorousLast time we were discussing the formation of relationship agreements, we were talking about people who were coming to polyamory...
Laura BoyleFeb 25, 20203 minWhat Are Relationship Agreements?The central tenet of polyamory, and of all ethical non-monogamy, is “Make agreements within your relationships, and stick to them.” Some...
Laura BoyleFeb 24, 20203 minWhat Is Polyamory, Anyway?Polyamory is a made-up English word for a variety of non-traditional relationships that makes classicists cringe, because it mixes Greek...