Jealousy in Polyamory

Jealousy and Hierarchy

Hierarchy is one of the concepts in polyamory that stirs up strong feelings in conversation every time it comes up. There’s a contingent...

Your Partners Can Handle Emotions When They’re Hard

We talked recently about negative, difficult emotions that you will feel your own personal version of at some point in your life. And our...

Hard-won Compersion

The last time we talked about compersion, we defined it and talked about why it isn’t mandatory. As a reminder, compersion is the...

Zero-Sum Thinking

This isn’t just a polyamory thing. This is a Life Thing. Zero-sum Thinking is the idea that if someone else has something, there’s less...

Compersion Is Not Mandatory

Compersion is a word you probably won’t use or hear unless you’re polyamorous, or have a lot of polyamorous friends. I define it in this...

The Green Eyed Monster In My Life (Spoilers: It's Me)

There are lots of things in life that are Do As I Say, Not As I Do for a person sharing collective advice. I’m a LOT better about...

But Don’t You Get Jealous?

Or, a brief examination of sexual and emotional jealousy and the ways polyamorous people are not immune to them Polyamorous people are...