Laura BoyleDec 8, 20217 minEmotional Ergonomics: Boundaries and Self-CompassionBoundaries have, in some ways, become a buzzword. People use "boundary" to describe personal boundaries, relationship agreements, rules,...
Laura BoyleMay 25, 20213 minHard to Open, Hard to Close, and Hard to Send - Communication StylesSome people (like yours truly) are talkers - they show interest by sharing the everyday and mundane in any format available to them...
Laura BoyleApr 16, 20215 minWhy Attachment Theory?Attachment theory, broadly speaking, is looking at human success as determined by connection and emotional bond-building. The original...
Laura BoyleApr 5, 20215 minNeeds and WantsOne of the big upsides of polyamory folks often point out is that you have the option of getting your emotional and relational needs met...
Laura BoyleJan 4, 20213 minWalking Through ShadowI wrote a while back about how our partners can support us when we’re having our ‘darker’ emotions. I argued, in that post, that a lot of...
Laura BoyleDec 28, 20202 minIs This a Hill I’m Really Willing to Die On?So, I’ve talked about how fighting to win is, generally, fighting to lose - and because of that, there’s a strong corollary to that...
Laura BoyleOct 28, 20203 minApology LanguagesHave you heard of Apology Languages? Do you know yours? We’ve previously discussed Love Languages, and how those five categories can...
Laura BoyleSep 11, 20202 minFighting to LoseNo one wins when you fight to win. I shared this post on my personal Facebook page this week, which was attributed to someone named...
Laura BoyleSep 8, 20206 minWhat Can Self-Care Look Like, Anyway?We talk a lot about self-care in polyamory. We talk about it as a necessity; we talk about it in opposition to caring for others or...
Laura BoyleAug 7, 20204 minMy Best Friends Are Polyamorous......I'm not. Today's post brought to you by the generous and anonymous monogamous heart-friend of the blog who we'll call Lily because...
Laura BoyleAug 3, 20202 minBrain SurgerySo, I don’t know if you might have seen this coming, what with the contents of “Love in the Time of Covid 2: Pandemic Bugaloo”; but my...
Laura BoyleJul 6, 20205 min Sometimes Your Emotions Are HardNot all self-discoveries are positive. Sometimes, the things you find about yourself when you’re self-examining that you need to work on....
Laura BoyleJul 3, 20203 minSomerville, MA Expands Domestic PartnershipIt's been reported everywhere from Wickedlocal to The New York Times, and I don't think I can turn on any form of social media without...
Laura BoyleJun 22, 20203 minAssertive and Passive CommunicationThere’s a lot of factors that feed into successful relationship agreements, into feeling free to express yourself, into being...
Laura BoyleMay 11, 20204 minGates and Guided Tours: Unfolding Secrets To New PartnersIf we could build a model of my mind (very different from my brain, I’ve seen loads of those), it would be the midieval castle at Haut...
Laura BoyleMar 12, 202014 minJust The STI Facts, Ma'amIf you don’t get my extremely dated reference, that man is a character from one of the first police procedurals, the 1950s Dragnet, Joe...